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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

COURTSHIP

Courtship to some may seem 'old-fashioned', 'outdated' or to others may seem a little unethical. Sometimes I get people asking if I have a boyfriend yet or if I am dating anyone. As soon as I say that I believe in Courting, they either have that face like: "What on Earth is that?" Or ask why I believe this way, and even:  "Is it you or your parents wanting you to do it?"
You see I really don't see Courtship as an obligation but only as an opportunity to keep myself pure and holy as the Lord intended. 
As He said in 1 Timothy 4:12:
-Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity.    

This is MY hope, that in all I do, I set an example for Christ, even in the little things, which means relationships. Really, in the big picture, relationships aren't just a little thing! It means spending time to get to know that one person who hopefully will be the person you spend the rest of your days with! How we go about spending time with him/her, is what defines whether its dating or courting. Courting is basically just getting to know the person with the hope of marriage. Dating in my opinion, is going out with someone, then seeing if they are compatible for another date. Hoping someday it may get serious, don't get me wrong I am not judging those who date! I am just making a point of the intentions behind both courting and dating.  
Courtship is about making sure you are pure throughout the whole relationship. Which means setting up personal boundary's for physical purity as well! My personal boundaries include:
-No hand holding until engaged. 
- Side hugs until engaged.
-Absolutely NO KISSING until the special day.
-Chaperon at all times (usually family).
Now these may seem a little strict to some, but to me they insure my physical purity both for me and my future husband. I mean if you think about this, it is actually, pretty cool to think that only my Husband will kiss me, and hold my hand! 
We also believe that Courtship should wait until you are old enough to marry. Another words courtship takes some time. So you get to know what their personalities are like, their character's (both good and bad) before the possibility of marriage. 
Hand holding may not seem like a big deal to many but to me, its a very important gesture of love between two people.
Hugs, this one is very important to me believe it or not! Hugs can be used in different circumstances; to comfort, to show excitement, to show love and of course greetings. But to me, its one thing that shows a tenderness to emotion and intimacy with the giver and receiver of the hug! Which is why I personally hold this to my heart, because of the closeness it brings to people, so side hugs are important!
Then kissing is another meaningful one! Kissing is probably the BIGGEST gestures of love anyone can give. Which is exactly why I think it important to save it for the day I will say, "I do"! I also think it is something to be exited for on your wedding day, other than marrying your best friend of course!
A chaperon is also a key while courting or sometimes before. Always having someone with the couple, will hold them accountable for every action, and if they start to cross the line unintentionally the chaperon will be there to stop and keep them pure. Usually the chaperon is a sibling of the girl or the guy, as long as it is someone they both trust and know. 
I also want to point out that, having boys or girls as friends or sometimes even best friends is perfectly alright! At times, friends of the other gender is easier and better! Trust me I know! You only have to watch out for flirtation or the other person taking your motives the wrong way. And if attractions do rise, be sure to tell someone and just keep it under control, who knows maybe that friend could be someone for the future! Not saying every girl or guy friend is a possibility just keep emotions, under control.
Another aspect to consider is guarding your heart! Emotional purity is very important because the heart sometimes can be so vulnerable, it really doesn't take much to get into the heart. It is hard especially for girls, we females always have a place in our hearts that is wanting to be loved. That is when the Father's of the family step-in to love and protect, until there is a right time, and a special man to take over. 
I also want to point out that like anything, sometimes not all courtships work out. The people may not work well together, they may have a different view of God. But there is no such thing as a failed courtship, God may not want someone to work because He wanted for you to see what you liked or didn't like in someone! Or He had a lesson that we need to learn. 
One thing that is very important is that the parents are in on every decision you make concerning relationships, and that they know all about him or her. If there is a bad characteristic it is likely the parents will tell you about it, if you don't know already. It is very important that the family is apart of the relationship, sometimes your family will pick up on things you wouldn't have!  
Everyone has their own view's on Courtship, some may not approve but for me it is a conviction that God has given to me personally, as well as my parents. Purity is very important to me which is why I believe in this so much! If you save your feelings, emotions and physical contact, that will be so much more rewarding than just temporary relationships! 
I pray everyday for my future soul-mate that  He is keeping himself for me as I am keeping my heart for him. I know that this is God's plan for me and how can I ever go wrong with that? 
The Courtship Chair
I hope that those who are reading this have a better understanding of courtship and my views on relationships! 
Lord Bless,
Felecia



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Resources:
http://www.pinterest.com/felecia98/courtship-boy-girl-stuff/  My board on pinterest. 





Friday, February 28, 2014

We Can Trust Him

Philippians 4:19
 "But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus."
   Every single human being on this great big universe has desires! Admit it everyone has at least one or two things that we want or wish to do! God knows ALL the desires of our hearts! He loves to spoil us, but at times He test our faith and waits just long enough for us to trust in the Lord for all things. We trust God with our faith and our love, But why not EVERY thing else? 
Psalm 37:4-6  and he will give you the desires of your heart commit your way to the lord; trust him and he will act…. ."
   God wants us to commit everything unto Him, so that we can trust Him to do what He desires for us! The more we trust the Lord, the more God strengthens our faith. However, everyone knows that! Another thing we know is that it is very easy to trust in the things we can see, that is understandable! From time to time God gives us a nudge to see how much we trust in Him, when we do not what we are going to do from day to day! 
   As soon as we all seem to be giving up, God shows us His amazing mercy and love! For example, more than five months ago my family and I was getting very discouraged, because the Snowden life-style is not exactly easy! Growing up a Pastors daughter is not always what it looks like, on top of that having a very sick Father! So after nearly three years of not having a vacation we were wanting and needing one. It didn't have to be fancy or anything, if we could just get away for a while. However, it seemed that no matter what we did or tried there was always obstacles all around! God shut the door here, and it was too hot there, and this place was closed, etc… .  So, we were giving up 'the hopes' for a vacation. The family gathered and prayed for one last time, giving up the desire and need, completely to the Lord. That very day, God supplied SO miraculously, that the whole family had tears in their eyes at one time or another! He just wanted to show us that when He does something, He goes all the way! So the very next day we packed, made reservations and we were on our way to a two-week vacation to Florida (our favorite place, the beach)! 

   Now, I am not saying that trusting God is a ‘piece of cake,‘ but very far from it. Or that He will give us ‘things’ in return. Yet, supplying us with the strength to know that He is always there. Thus, directing our steps and showing us where and what to do. In our life style, it seems to get harder, because we have more and more to be worried about. At times, it can weigh, one down so much it is hard to even think about trusting the Lord, believe me it gets really tough!
   Living in the Hands of God is a pleasure to those who see His Hand under and all around them. Knowing then, every time He picks us up (after we have fallen or are hurting). Even through our battles and trials, the one question that needs to be asked is; "What do people see through your reactions to your situations?" 
It doesn't matter the situation, but it is the reaction that we show, for those who surround us at that time; I say, "Watch your attitude to the problem."  Though sometimes, life just will not relent from the constant battles that we are faced with everyday. That is when you sit down, take a deep breath and tell God every one of your problems big and or small! 
   To get to the point, ANY problems that we have at that moment, just give them to the Lord! He wants us to run to Him in time of need. We human being’s make things so complicated when it comes to hard situations. God made us that way so we can learn to lean on Him at all times!

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Daddy


     All of my life, Daddy had been (to me) the strongest man in the world! He would play with us in the evenings and do his independent carpentry work during the day, then turn around and devote his weekend to work on his message for the Sunday service's. For our birthdays, he would make us things like; a doll house with little beds to go a long with it, a barn for the little animals, and every where we have lived he has built a homemade play ground, the first one was a fort with a sandbox that had 4 different kinds of swings, and a slide. Then a two story playhouse that had a homemade table and chairs. This time he made a wagon that looks real, with wagon wheels and a seat for us to sit on! 

    Our small world was turned upside down and shaken, October 2010, when my daddy; Reverend Brad Snowden had undergone a simple meniscus repair in his left knee. He  always hated to go to the doctors, except when mom begged him to go to the doctor after he began limping badly. After some persuading he had the pursedure done, which probably lasted not even ten minutes. All  seem to be good when we came home, naturally he slept the day off. Then the next few days were odd, he started complaining of pain in different place's in his bad leg. So we took him to the hospital and they found a huge blood clot, in is calf. He stayed in the hospital  for two weeks, for the first time in my life my sister and I were separated from our parents for more than two nights. Up until this time, I was shocked but at peace with the situation. Yet, now that I was two hours away from the three people that held my world together; I just broke completely down. The reality of the situation had hit me, and being away from them was way too much for me. Another issue was that I had a sister to help too, it got to the place where my sister and I cried ourselves to sleep every night. My sweet, wonderful grandparents brought us home after consoling with my mom. Finally, when he was to come home we were delighted, our daddy was finally on his way, but the day before he was to be out of the hospital, his leg swelled till it looked like a soccer ball.  

My Birthday party!
   By that time it was my birthday and we spent it in room 317 of the hospital, we ate doughnuts which dad was not aloud to have, but it was my 12th birthday! My daddy wanted to make me happy! 
When released he was finally healing from the surgery and the blood clot! 

   Nearly three months later, his health came to a place, where the knee was no longer the issue; breathlessness, heart pain, no taste buds, migraines and the list can go on and on. Within the first year, Doctors took what seemed like every kind of scan possible at least twice, saying he had a brain hematoma, lymphoma, chronic fatigue syndrome, etc, etc.... 

   A friend of our's daughter had nearly the same symptoms and they found out that she had Lyme Disease, so we decided  to look into it, seeing a Lyme's friendly M.D. we  found out that dad had Chronic Lyme and Babesiosis (babesia)! At that time (and still to the present) dad couldn't even try  working, for his body was at war within it's own self. During this time (and now), dad could not work to provide for the family and he still can't but my amazingly, God has supplied miraculously! God has been providing our needs with the Lord laying us on individuals hearts. It was still difficult for me not knowing what was to happen next; not knowing what dad was going to feel like the each day, not knowing if we would have to run out the door the next moment because dad might be in tremendous pain and need an ambulance to take him to the hospital, which seemed to happen quite often. 

   Last May, our cardiologist thought that daddy might have hardening of the paracardial  (layer that protect's the heart).
He recommended a great doctor in Chicago, IL.  Which mom was not looking forward to it because of the crazy traffic and stories that people have told of getting lost. The doctor immediately admitted him to this huge hospital! We stayed there for a week, spending the day with dad and spending the night in a dorm room a block over (another provision from the Lord). During his stay he had a heart cathiterization and a variety of different test. Their conclusion was that he was crazy and in need of psychiatric help, also that he was too lazy to do what he needed to, to keep up his strength! If there was one thing that I am thankful to the for, Lord is that at that moment-  I was not there when the doctor had the nerve to even think of that diagnosis! I do believe this was the angriest I had ever felt in my life. 

    Since then, I think our family has lost some trust in doctors, because they refuse to believe that he is really sick. As he is suffering so badly from this unmerciful disease that puts dadd through so much pain; it just amazes me of the blindness from the medical profession!

    Nearly three years now, we have  pushed him in a wheel chair, he still has to take naps because most any activity such as going to Walmart or any other place, he just wears out. Also he can't sleep at night because of the insomnia!


   This is what Lyme Disease does to a body! Just because you can see little difference on the outside, does not mean that he is healthy!

Please be aware of this tick born disease that so many people are oblivious too! It needs to be known, and seen not only by doctors but by people.


~Felecia Mary Snowden~
Here is the story from my parents Blog on their Lyme Battle:
The Beginning To the End
http://dealingwithlymesandotherdiseases.blogspot.com/2012/06/beginning-to-end.html

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Icebergs



   Let's say that a stranger ask's your best friend what they thought of you, how would you think they would explain you in entirety? If you had to introduce yourself to someone with only 25 words what would you say? What would you talk about?  Your age, your deeds, your interests, your hobbies, or your school?


In our high demanding society, people are very interested in what we have done or want to do, for example; if you may want to be“a Teacher," “ Olympian," “ Musician," “ Boss,”  or maybe even a "President."    But because we are so culturally defined the fact is that we focus on our efforts being successful as well as to achieving a higher status.
Culture is what designates our actions and so the things that we say and do should affect others through the things that we as Christians do.
Let me illustrate this by referring to the ice-berg! What is seen above the water represents our cultural status. What lurks underneath the water (around 90% of an ice-berg) shows our love and passion, forming the greater part of who we are (what is seen by God!) Now the question is:

What exactly does God desire and want to see underneath and on the surface of our lives?  

 What is under the surface? 

"God does not favor people with titles, trophies or talents. God favors people who are prepared to submit to His Word with fear and trembling, some of the most favored people in God's eye's were really the most humble children of God." [http://www.christianitytoday.com/iyf/search/?query=seeing+god+through+me&submit.x=0&submit.y=0&submit=submit]

So don’t keep a huge iceberg underneath!! Let people see God shine through you like a crystal window. Don’t pour all your energy into what culture sees you as. Rather, remember who you really are, underneath, 'below the surface' Develop growing in courage and boldness, so people can get a glimpse of the 'iceberg'!
Fact:  As glaciers move, they create a variety of patterns on other ice glacier's and land called glacial scraping (making an imprint). "Compare the likeness of glaciers in our daily routines of life, continuously moving about making permanent impressions hopefully of God's Love on others" [Danielle Snowden] 


Friday, November 2, 2012

True Faith

True Faith
Hebrews 11:1 "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."
 What would you do if someone came up to you and asked, "To what extent would you go with your faith in God?” Sure we all go through trials, but do we really have faith that God will bring you through it? I often ask that question, but as soon as I question myself, I feel the true peace that passes all understanding! Trust is essential to hold on to in the days that you can't hold any longer. Hope is the sensation that keeps you sane and calm and love from the everlasting Father that warms your spirit like none other. We all go through trials that only God knows about, we use our faith and strength in Christ to live. As soon as God has seen many of us becoming tired, weak, and depressed; He scoops us up into His arms, just as our daddy picks us up when we fall. God knows our hurts and pains and helps us through it with our faith and His love for us. We have strength that no one else does and through the hardships the strength only increases and we are able to do anything with the power of God. It only comes through  faith we already have installed in our hearts from above. Sometimes, God has to nudge us a little to see how we need to exercise our faith, so that we won’t  freak out if we are in a tight spot and are a little claustrophobic. Trust God and have faith through the tough spots, we will not back down to defeat!



Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Joy

Joy Fruit of the Spirit PowerPoint Template | slide 1
Joy: Intense and especially ecstatic or exultant Happiness. 
Joyfulness is a blessing that God has given us, so that we may enjoy life and have fun! It is one of many ways that I myself and others enjoy our Savior, by being joyful in His name. If you are not joyful, then what is the reason of life? If you look around you; unhappiness and sadness is everywhere! It's just so heart breaking because half of them are kids or teens! When we look deeper,  we discover  their lives's at home. Every day kids my age come home to parents that are drug addicts, drinkers and so much more. The last and BIGGEST thing is: that they might not even no what it is to have the joy of the Lord or any joy for that matter! Real Joy happens when you open the Bible and read the living word! Remember, Joy is a fun bubbly thing that only comes from God! 
So have fun, and enjoy it!! 
1 Kings 8:66  On the eighth day he sent the people away: and they blessed the king, and went unto their tents joyful and glad of heart for all the goodness that the LORD had done and will do in their life's.




Thursday, January 26, 2012

The True Purpose of Human Being's!


 What do you think the word's; Reaching out to the lost really mean's to the world?

What do you think people would say if they saw somebody reaching out to someone that is needy; maybe even homeless and hungry? You would hope they would say; "WOW, that is so cool!" But the real truth is they have no one to say that to. But what the world really needs is someone to look up to. I am not saying you have to become president or anything, just that we need to get into God's original idea which is to save those who need it and strengthen those the 4.5 billion that are lost in this world! Then maybe those people that you (we) lead to Jesus, will do the same for others before the Lord our Savior comes to take us home for Eternity! 



BOOKS I'M READING

  • Ben Carson Story
  • Jesus Freaks
  • Life Without Limbs
  • Frank Peretti
  • Van Trapp Family Singers
  • Presence of mine Enemy
  • The Bible
  • God Calling

Music

  • Piano Guys
  • Natalie Grant
  • Jamie Grace
  • Lindsey Stirling
  • Bing Crosby
  • 40's hits!
  • Jesus Culture
  • Celtic Woman
  • Kari Jobe
  • Britt Nicole